are endless points that need attention,
beginning with that all important decision
on the date and booking the church, chapel,
temple, gurdwara or register office. Saturdays
are always popular so, if it's your intention
to wed at the weekend, you'll need to fix
it at least three to six months in advance.
For similar reason book caterers and reception
venue at the same time, even if you're not
sure of guest numbers.
how many people to invite is the next step and should be taken jointly
by both families. Tact and diplomacy are needed where one 'side'
wants to import a coach load of thirsty, distant relatives but is
unspecific about who is going to pay, likewise where a divorced
parent declares "If she's coming, then I'm not." Compromise,
sweet compromise - "How about one of you coming to the service,
the other to the reception?" could be the solution.
forget to arrange your honeymoon early - popular destinations are
often sold out months ahead, and simply 'making do' with your second
choice can be a lasting disappointment. Confirm your booking in
writing and then re-confirm close to your departure date or engage
a personal travel counsellor to take care of all the details.
the book-ahead-basics done, it's then time to choose your bridesmaids,
best man, ushers and page boys - and to spend time on one of the
nicest tasks; shopping for that wedding dress (saree), and for dresses
and accessories for both yourself and your bridesmaids. Make sure
you've got a picture of your wedding dress (saree) and headdress
or desired hairstyle if possible - this will help your hairstylist.
Redhotcurry.com recommends that you arm yourself with 'The Asian
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so that you can choose a look for yourself, your maid of honour,
bridesmaids and nearest female relatives.
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You can choose from over 30 stunning hairstyles to complement
the photographer/video company, cars, (or liaise with family and
friends willing to provide transport) and beauty therapist for your
wedding day make-up, and then order your wedding cake.
the vicar again, confirm the Banns and consult him - or her - about
the music, confetti, bells and the Order of service etc. For an
Asian wedding, book the priest and check to see if they will be
bringing all the sundries necessary for the ceremony or whether
they can provide a list of the things you'll need to source.
out invitations (at least six weeks before your big day), and remember
to keep a list of who has accepted and who has refused. Book a hotel
for the wedding night.
wedding stationery, including invitations ('Mr and Mrs James Smith
request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter'
etc) and Order of Service sheets.
four to six weeks for this. Send invitations out at least six weeks
prior to your wedding.
up a wedding present list - this is one of the most enjoyable chores
- so make sure you make the most of it.
your wedding ring and going-away outfit; organise floral arrangements
for the church and reception; order bouquets, buttonholes etc and
send out wedding present lists to those who request one.
final stages include: letting the caterers know the final reception
numbers, having a full dress rehearsal of the wedding, checking
all of the details again, and arranging for your honeymoon suitcases
to be taken to the reception venue.
the day of the wedding arrives - make sure you set your alarm clocks
- it's traditional for the bride to be a little late, but sharing
a service with the next group in line isn't exactly the ideal scenario.
sure the best man has the ring and that the groom has his speech.
forget to take a cheque book along to pay the church fees, and remember
to take along the presents for attendants and parents.
surprisingly, some people leave everything to a professional wedding
organiser. Yet most brides love the excitement of all the preparations.
That's how it should be - but don't hesitate to get help if you
need it and delegate tasks wherever possible.
Set a date, and then make arrangements to see either the vicar
(church ceremony) or the registrar (civic ceremony). For an Asian
wedding, consult the priest to find a suitable 'auspicious date'
and see if he is available to conduct the ceremony.
Book the caterers and the reception venue.
Draw up a guest list with the help of both families.
Book your honeymoon.
Choose your bridesmaids, best man and ushers.
Shop till you drop for that wedding dress, bridesmaids' dresses,
accessories and those wedding rings.
Book all the transport required, the photographer/video firm,
hairdresser, beautician, and order the cake.
Send out your wedding invitations.
Prepare your wedding present list.
Organise floral arrangements, bouquets etc
Keep track of who accepts/refuses invitations etc
Finalise numbers for the reception, notify caterers, hold a wedding
dress rehearsal and finally, re-check all details from the cars
to the cake and from the flowers to the photography.